Tis the Summer to travel. Am I right? July tends to be very dead in the town where I live. All the schools have July off and everyone vacates the area. It’s too hot to be out and we’re all tired of being in. The other night Justin and I had to sit down and go over our travel budget. Apparently, I like to travel and he was getting a tad stressed out with all our time away. Once we sat down and wrote out all our expenses and saw how many Southwest free flights we were actually using (I’m loving SW miles in my life, amen?) he could breath a little easier.
But it got me thinking on where we put our priorities.
My husband and I are very different when it comes to time off. I’m in the camp of, ‘as much and as often’. He’s in the camp of, ‘as little and as infrequent’. Such is life when you marry your complete opposite. I’m no marriage therapist nor do I claim to be good at this wife thing but I have learned a little in my years as a Mrs..Balance.
Balance is key and sometimes balance takes a while to be realized.
My son, Ryan, has a cute little saying he does with his hands. Using his hands to create the motions to go with the saying he starts off with:
“Dig a hole, dig a hole”
“Plant a seed, plant a seed”
“Cover it up, Cover it up”
“Rain on it, rain on it, rain on it…” This goes on and on.
“Sunshine on it, sunshine on it” (I never claimed to be grammatically proficient in my teaching)
“Out. Pops. My. Pretty. Flowers.”
Sometimes it’s followed by a, “Good Job Mommy”!
Ryan seems to have got it figured out.
It takes a lot of steps to get something to grow. Same with marriage and all our relationships.
Planning trips, keeping budgets, planting the seed of time off back in January so that in July we can escape the heat. These are all steps to grow and sustain my marriage. What do you have to work on and keep healthy in your relationships? Is it time to let the other person get used to a new idea, or maybe it’s just being the one that plants the seed and let’s the other, “come up with it on their own”? I’d love to hear what you have learned in your relationship building!